How To: Give Your Lady an Orgasm

Notes before you start: She must first know how to make herself orgasm. An orgasm will most likely not happen during your first sexual encounter (but if it doesn’t happen soon… Well let’s just say it’s a good thing you are here).

The event must be worked up throughout the evening. What have you done to get her in the mood? Sincere compliments, playful touching (but not overtly sexual – not yet). The mood of the night must be good. In fact, for many women the mood of the whole day must have been good, but that isn’t entirely up to you. Let’s just focus on the time you can control.

Throughout this post, remember that your lady love will be entirely “in her head” the whole time. She is thinking about what you are thinking. She is thinking about how she looks. She is thinking about tomorrow. She is self conscious. If she is given too much space to think of these things, you have lost her. Don’t let her know that you need to work hard for her orgasm. Even if you have been going forever, unless you want to keep going forever (or until she fakes it or gives up), you must not let her see you getting tired or bored. To you, her body is special. It is something to be conquered. Think of her as having different levels to beat. The ultimate boss is her orgasm.

Let’s begin. You are both dressed, but the obvious flirting and touching has begun. If you can feel the sexual tension, you are on the right track. Keep your clothes on for as long as you can stand. Maybe you’ll get lucky and she will start the undressing. Move to a place where she can lie down. You have a much greater chance of her having a true orgasm while she is lying down vs. any other position. Her legs, butt, and abdominal muscles are very important to the build up.

You are lying down and kissing her tenderly, don’t spend too much time on one spot (including the mouth). It gets annoying and gives her too much time to think of how it’s going. Think of interesting places to kiss her. Hands, shoulder, elbow, chin, jawbone, collarbone etc. While kissing you should also be rubbing her in a massaging motion. Please note that you are not overtly massaging her. She knows that massage equals sex and she will start thinking about it. Instead, focus on rubbing while kissing. For example, squeezing her arms (gently), lightly dragging your fingers along her back. Playing with her hair also counts. Make it clear that you are enjoying her body. Truly, you should be enjoying her body. In fact, she should get the impression that you don’t even care if the clothes ever come off, you are just so excited to be in her sexy company.

Removing the clothes should be a fluid motion that continues from the kissing and rubbing we talked about above. To be clear, taking off clothes always has an element of awkwardness.