HAVING S-E-X FOR THE FIRST TIME, FOR BOTH OF YOU

For both partners:

HOW DO I HAVE “GOOD” SEX?

What follows is not a set of rules. Rules about sex are impossible–
what should matter is that what you do makes you feel good. And
“feeling good” should last past the sex itself– you should not feel
anxious afterwards about getting her pregnant or catching some
horrible disease, so planning ahead about contraception and safe sex
is part of the idea.


WHAT TIME SHOULD WE HAVE SEX?

When you have sex doesn’t really matter. What should matter instead
is that you and your partner have sex when you are both comfortable.
Some people prefer to make love at the break of dawn, some in the
afternoon sun, some in the darkness of night. More important than
time of day is the time you have to spend. Give yourself a lot of
time to have sex the first time. A weekend is ideal, but at least the
whole day, including sleep time.


SHOULD WE EAT OR DRINK ANYTHING BEFORE SEX?

Avoid eating a heavy meal, since that’ll just make you sleepy. Eat
light, don’t drink too much alcohol, if any at all. It may help you
shed inhibitions, but it may also make his erection much more
difficult to achieve and you want to spend more time in the bedroom
than the bathroom anyway, right?


WHERE SHOULD WE HAVE SEX?

Where you have sex is probably a more important decision. Finding a
place where you both can be private for up to forty-eight hours can
be difficult at that age where most people are planning on losing
their virginity. But it’s worth it. Cars are no longer big enough to
have sex in, and the outdoors has less privacy, bugs, sand, and pine
needles.

A bed is probably the best thing to make love in, still.