a guide to cunnilingus

Eating a woman’s pussy is about the most wonderful thing you can do for
her. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and of course it makes her
cum like crazy. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for most, it is
the easiest way to cum with a man. You may have the littlest dick on the
planet, but if you give great head, you will be appreciated as a
fabulous lover. Yes, it’s that important. Besides, lots of women expect
it these days – you might as well know what your doing.

First off, guys seem to have a strange love/hate relationship with
women’s genitalia. Guys that can’t wait to get their dick into one are
often reluctant to put their face “down there”. For every guy who says
he loves to eat pussy, there’s another one who’s squeamish. Women know
this, and it affects their ability to lay back and enjoy the experience.
There is nothing more exciting to a woman than to know that her partner
finds her delicious. Don’t be coy; tell her. When a guy fingers a lady
and then smells, licks, sucks the juice off his finger and sighs as if
in heaven, she _knows_ this is her lucky day.

What if your sweet lady doesn’t smell or taste very sweet? Don’t suffer.
(Don’t complain, either.) Take a nice hot shower or bath together.
Lather up both of your bodies and slide them together. It’s like a whole
body fuck. Soap up her vulva, washing between her outer and inner lips.
Spread her lips apart and gently wash her clitoris. Hey, don’t stop –
this feels great! Run your soapy hand down the crack of her ass, and rub
a finger all around her anus. You can stick one finger in and wash
around inside too, if you anticipate any anal play, and I suggest you
do. But don’t put those soapy fingers up her vagina. Instead, rinse them
off well and stick one or two inside, making a circular motion. Think
about washing the inside of a tall glass – same thing. Now wasn’t that
fun? And now you can feel free to let your tongue wander anywhere it
pleases…

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So now what? You’ve found a comfy spot to play, you’ve been kissing
passionately, your tongues darting around each other’s mouths like
playful otters. You’ve moved down to nibble one of her hardening nipples
and she’s starting to groan, grinding her pelvis against your stomach.
STOP. I know it was just starting to get good. But was she really
groaning and humping you, or was it your own excitement you were
detecting? I strongly prefer to be excited _before_ a guy starts
plunging his tongue into my inner recesses. Use your judgement, and
kiss, lick, and fondle your way down her stomach, up her thighs, until
she’s arching up her back trying to get you to eat her. Of course, if
she really _was_ groaning and grinding, go for it…I also don’t
particularly enjoy a guy endlessly nibbling my inner thigh while my clit
is quivering in anticipation.


POSITIONS

If the woman you are with is somewhat hesitant about your going down on
her, start off with her lying on her back, perhaps half- sitting. Lay
down between her legs, with her legs over your shoulders. She may enjoy
laying or sitting at the edge of the bed with you kneeling. She can also
straddle your face, but be prepared to get _very_ wet. There are endless
varieties of positions where you can press your face up to her cunt,
some of which strike me as more acrobatic than erotic, but feel free to
experiment. And then there’s 69…

69 is one of my favorite positions. On the plus side, you both get to
enjoy the sublime sensations of getting head, simultaneously. The upside
down positioning of a woman’s pussy and your mouth is an easy fit and
there’s more room for your hands. On the negative side, it’s a less than
ideal position for a woman to give head. Plus, if you need to read this
article, you may be better off concentrating your energies on pleasing
her, without too much distraction. But even for experienced 69’ers, it’s
easy to short-change your partner. “It feels soooo good, I’m just gonna
stop for a second and concentrate on what you’re…aaaarrrgghhh”. Get
the picture? Some show of will-power is in order.

69 can be done male on top, female on top, or side by side. The latter
two are easier, though it’s more restful with both partners laying down.
Some women love being licked on all fours, so if female-on-top 69 drives
her wild, take the hint and find some other ways to eat her in this
position. I happen to enjoy male on top, but for many women this is a
sure choking position. If a woman can, or wants to try, to deep-throat
you, this is THE position. When her head is thrust back you can really
slide your cock all the way down her throat. But don’t forget what
_you’re_ supposed to be doing!

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So there you are staring at it – the mysterious hole from whence you
came, and into which you hope to cum again… First, an anatomy
lesson…

THE CLITORIS

Before I go any further, a few words about the clitoris, accent on the
first syllable. Most of you know it, but for those who don’t, it is THE
woman’s sex organ, period. It may feel great to be fucked vaginally,
anally or otherwise, but if the stimulation is not right there, on the
clitoris, you’re ignoring the place that’s going to make her cum, and
presumably that’s why you’re reading this, right? It’s right there at
the top juncture of her inner lips, a small knob of pink flesh. This is
where it’s at boys, and don’t forget it. Almost any licking and sucking
of the labia or vaginal entrance is going to feel just dandy; just
remember that this is pleasurable _teasing_, not the main event. I
can’t tell you how many guys have thrust their tongues up my vagina
thinking that this was going to make me cum. They were wrong. Of course,
with a little manual stimulation….but I’m getting ahead of myself.

Women feel differently about how much direct stimulation they can take
on their clitoris. Some women will adore it if you suck hard on their
exposed clits, others will shriek in pain. You may encounter a woman
who is completely unable to take direct stimulation of her clit; the
goal is still the same, but you’ll have to stimulate it indirectly,
such as through her labia. IMPORTANT NOTE: Often, what is unacceptably
rough at first may be fine after she’s very excited. The fact is, most
women really need a good bit of stimulation before a targeted attack
on their clitoris, but once they’re there, that’s where you want to
devote your attention.

The key here is go slow, ask questions, and if she’s comfortable with
it, leave the lights on and really explore. Body language often does
tell what feels best, but I promise, she will appreciate your
attentiveness if you ask outright. If she seems shy, get her to guide
your hands and mouth with her own hand, and pay attention. If she starts
bucking up against your mouth and gasping in ragged little breaths, for
God’s sake, don’t use this opportunity to try something different. Just
keep doing exactly what you’re doing.

THE TONGUE

I want to reiterate, there is almost nothing you can do that won’t feel
terrific, so relax! I promise, you may be confused and uncertain, but
she’s in heaven. Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance,
clitoris, or anal area is going to feel just great, and I’d no sooner
tell guys to “do it exactly like this” than I would tell every chef to
follow the same recipe. But for those who are compelled to RTFM, here
are a few techniques that you might like to try:

Try lapping her pussy from vaginal entrance up to her clit, leaving your
tongue soft and jaw relaxed. This is a good way to start your tonguing.

Run your tongue between the inner and outer labia on one side, while
holding the two together with your lips. Good job, now do the other
side.

Fuck her pussy with your tongue – in and out, around and around, etc.
This feels nice. Not wonderful or incredible or earth-shaking; nice.

Spread her outer lips with your hand. Then, with your tongue pointed and
stiff, gently flick here and there. Feel free to roam, but keep coming
back to her clit. This drives some women wild, and others can’t take it.
Some may prefer that you always leave your tongue soft, so when you try
this, pay attention to whether those moans are ecstacy or pain.